For thousands of years, if our caregivers rejected or abandoned us, we would die. There were no fire stations or social workers.
Our nervous systems became wired to need our parents' love to feel physically SAFE!
This is especially true of our mother. Our first safe place (or supposed to be).
Our nurturer, life giver, sustainer.
When we experience a mother that frequently rejects, criticizes, or shames us, as a child, our nervous system takes this as a literal threat to our life!
When this happens enough, (as do most people who grow up with emotionally immature or narcissistic mothers), the nervous system gets stuck in the past, still feeling like it is in physical danger.
In other words, IF YOU HAD A TOXIC MOTHER, YOU ARE MOST LIKELY LIVING IN SURVIVAL MODE
When you are in survival mode, you suffer with:
π© Irritability or anger
π© Anxiety
π© Depression
π© Attachment issues
π© Loneliness
π© Eating disorders
π© Excessive phone scrolling
π©Social anxiety
π© Sleeping issues
π© Skin issues
π© Digestive issues
And you are more susceptible to chronic or deadly diseases.
AND WORST OF ALL...
Whatever trauma we don't heal, is trauma that we pass on to others, like our partner or kids!
It is vital that we regulate our nervous system, and heal the emotional wounds and trauma for us to have a happy and fulfilled life, and avoid becoming like a narcissistic mother.
A life where you:
β Wake up happy to start the day each morning
β Respect, value and love yourself
β Feel confident in yourself and your abilities
β Have great relationships
β Easily say no and set boundaries
β Are loving, kind and patient with others and your kids
is all totally possible for you with the right tools!
Therapy is great if you can afford it, but it is also important to have tools you can use from home!
I created a course called the "Toxic Mother Recovery" course showing you all the tools I used personally to heal and have successfully helped hundreds of others do the same.